The simplest and most pronounced example of respect and consideration that we can afford each other as human beings is to make eye contact when we address or meet one another.
It’s straightforward, costs us nothing and shows that we’re not only listening to the other person but also that we mean them no harm.
It’s a guileless thing; something done that we possibly take for granted because we might consider it of little consequence to anyone. But we would be so wrong if we did because once it stops happening, all we’re personally left with is vague supposition as to why the slight is occurring.
In that event, more times than not the human condition dictates that we wonder just what is it we’ve done on our part that makes this person not want to afford us the most basic of interactions. We find ourselves cataloging all that’s happened between the two of us recently searching for anything that might have been misconstrued one way or another.
And once we find that there’s nothing there of consequence, all that’s then left behind is the hurt.
“A real grievance can be resolved; differences can be resolved. But an imaginary hurt, a slight – that motherfucker gonna hate you ‘til the day he dies.”
From the movie – Hoffa
Unfortunately, more times than not, to hate is not an option since such slights can often occur in places where the words colleagues, camaraderie and team are either buzzwords or goals that have gone unachieved.
In that case, the repair of the situation has to be a personal one and come from within. The injured party must rise above the human need to retaliate and maintain an air of courtesy and professionalism.
On the other hand, it pays to recognize where your trouble may be coming from. Like other four-legged beasts in the animal kingdom, when a man stops looking you directly in your eyes, he’s either afraid of you or will eventually try to harm you, or both.
In today’s workplace, it behooves us to identify when a coworker feels threatened by us or has it in for us. It becomes a case of forewarned is foretold. There’s not a lot to be done about it however; recognition does not bring with it any easy solution to the dilemma.
Still, in a world where petty differences and slights can balloon and take on entirely different meanings, it pays to appreciate when the potential for abuse is about to rear its ugly head. It that manner, forewarned is truly being foretold.